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Here is a short excerpt from the book - it is a SEOUL CONNECTION, A Handbook for Happiness
On the other hand, his close friends usually thought of him as too impulsive. They were not correct about him either. Ji Won did take the time to logically evaluate his next steps. But he believed that if one wants to shine in unique ways, then one also needs to take those steps that others are not willing to take. He believed in taking calculated risks.
That is why he did most of his own stunts in his movies. At the start of his career, friends and family had tried to strongly dissuade him from it. But Ji Won had continued doing his own stunts. He knew it allowed him to better enact his role, to get deeper into his character’s psyche and because he was doing his own scene, the camera could capture close nuances of his action. All this finally went on to create spectacular magic on screen! That is who Ji Won thought of himself. He was a magician, who created magic on screen for his fans.
According to him, it is necessary to think, but at the same time, it is also very important to act. He hated it when people constantly sat on the fence instead of making an action plan. Nothing angered him more than unsure and indecisive behavior.
Sometimes his friends thought of him as a gambler- someone willing to take a tough bet. Ji Won simply looked at it as taking well-evaluated risks. He felt that it is necessary to take big, well-assessed risks, if one wants to achieve big in life.
This logical thinking worked well for him till his emotions got involved. He had many deep, unresolved feelings, that he had never taken the time to evaluate. His mother had bad lungs. When other kids had their mother accompany them to the playground, Ji Won had to go alone or with his elder brother.
He was raised by his grandmother. He had not received much attention from his mother and very early into his childhood he had developed a strong fear of rejection. He wanted to look good, come across as capable and confident, because he was always worried that if he did not show a brave front, then people will see his true self and dislike him for it.
Ji Won secretly hoped that someday he will learn to create his own magic. Everyone who saw his life from the outside, thought he had a magical existence. They were correct to some extent. For a poor boy with no real prospects, Ji Won had become one of Asia’s biggest celebrity. Life surely had blessed him with a Midas-touch.
What people did not know was that deep inside, Ji Won was sad. He always felt mentally drained and totally devoid of any peace of mind. He had not been able to figure out the real reason. There were days when he would feel depressed, but to save face, he would still go out and play golf with his friends. He would give interviews claiming the benefits of having a disciplined schedule and make cute fan videos to show he was ‘happy’.
There is an old saying- ‘if one puts on a mask long enough, it eventually becomes their face’. Ji Won thought he will prove it correct, by putting on a brave front. But Ji Won should have realized that the saying talks about how others will perceive you as per your mask, it does not speak about internal transformation.
When it came to his image, Ji Won did prove that saying correct. With his calm, brave front, he had gathered lot of admiration from his fans and public in general. Everyone thought of him as a very pious and spiritual man. But Ji Won merely felt empty. People thought he was a courageous man who can weather all kinds of storms.
There were those who looked up to him for it and then there were those who were envious of him. The former group would frequently reach out to him for help and advice. The latter group would try to take him down with vicious attacks!
At times, Ji Won felt guilty. He thought of himself as a hypocrite who showed a spiritual face to the world, when inside he was constantly in pain and angst. He always sought validation and acceptance. As a celebrity he received more than his fair share of public love and attention. Even his parents were happy to see his success and Ji Won had finally received his father’s approval.
What made Ji Won sad was that he constantly felt distressed and ‘unsupported’. He could not explain the feeling. There were many times when he wondered if he was losing his mental balance which made him think these strange thoughts. But he knew that those were not thoughts that his thinking mind had come up with. These were deep seated emotions he constantly felt, and he felt helpless to address them!