This is a place I have now been going to for several years and so I feel quite friendly with most of the people. And even the new people they have had over the years, I find them quite knowledgeable and nice- so I do make it a special point to acknowledge their help and service. I also always make it a point to address them by name and thank them individually after my work gets done.
As I see it, these are folks who know their work very well. Yes, it is true that I am paying for the service- BUT payment does not always equal good service. Getting good people to do a job is a special grace from the Universe and so I am always very thankful for it- to the Divine and also to the people who are doing that job for me.
Why I am writing this here is because, while this girl was ringing me up after the tire change, I mentioned to her, how I find their service very good and feel blessed to get to deal with such nice and knowledgeable people. I would have expected her to simply say- thank you with a smile or something similar. But instead she said, "well it first comes from you… you treat us nice. You are friendly and don’t behave with us as if we are… " and she let her sentence trail off. I am not too sure what she meant to say. Maybe she meant to say- “as if we are real people”?? Atleast that is what her expression said...
Many a times, I see people interact- they so thoughtlessly, say a hello or a thank you to the tellers, cashiers and myriads of other service people we meet in a day. And I wonder why??
It could be that people are too engrossed in their own situations, issues, problems and so on that are going on in their life- they feel that their situations/challenges are so big that they do not have the time to chit chat with others!!
But this is not chit chat- acknowledging another being, someone you are interacting the minimum level of attention that you can really give. And what is life, if not attention…
Isolation is not just about being physically cut off from people. There are many people who will confess that even in a crowded room they feel alone!! And there are others, who can be physically alone and feel connected to the world at large!!
As we know, feelings of isolation and despair is a growing problem in our society and if we want to address it at a grassroot level then we need to start connecting with people, all people in a meaningful way. This does not mean to spend lots of time conversing with everyone you meet… this is not about the quantity of time you spend with anyone- it is about the quality of time!!
When you are speaking to someone, give them attention- acknowledge their presence by really looking at them and hearing what they have to say.
And as another irrefutable laws of the Universe, when you give this gift of attention to others, you will find that this goodness returns to you many folds!!
Always remember… “The creator and his creation are not different. Everyone you meet is a creation of the divine- make it a point to really connect with them, and you will experience connection with the Universe.”