There are many times, when we have many repressed emotions within us, about a situation, about a person or even about how we have dealt/not with a particular issue. Ofcourse the best course of action is to reflect on the situation and then discuss the details with relevant people. If it is something that one has done or wished that one had, then in that case, one can make a mental note to modify their behavior going forward.
Though this would be the ideal situation and proper way to conduct oneself, the reality is that many people do not feel comfortable approaching someone they have a grievance with or a bone to pick! They do not feel comfortable expressing their deeper emotions and feelings. Finally, a point comes when they have bottled those emotions for so long that they simply burst with a barrage of emotions, lashing out and expressing all their pent-up feelings, anger, and frustration!!
Though this would be the ideal situation and proper way to conduct oneself, the reality is that many people do not feel comfortable approaching someone they have a grievance with or a bone to pick! They do not feel comfortable expressing their deeper emotions and feelings. Finally, a point comes when they have bottled those emotions for so long that they simply burst with a barrage of emotions, lashing out and expressing all their pent-up feelings, anger, and frustration!!
Now, is this good or bad? It depends on how this burst of energy and emotion is conducted. Such outbursts can be compared with electrical storms. Have you ever noticed electrical storms? Even though as they occur, it may seem quite terrifying, atleast to some people, but we find that they help to cleanse and clear the air.
Similarly, on one side, voicing one’s pent-up feelings and emotions can help one to feel relieved and comforted, but at the same time, if it is done it a very cruel and erratic way, where one just bursts on unsuspecting parties, who usually tend to be friends, family, close relationships or even colleagues, then it can lead to deep hurt and broken relationships!
Lightening can strike anytime and usually as this force of nature, it can be very destructive, but when harnessed it allows us to have electricity.
Similarly, even though you may not feel as comfortable to express your emotions and concerns during a calm discussion and because of this you maybe the type of person who needs to feel pent up to lash out, to make yourself heard… see if you are able to harness and steer your feelings in such a way, where you clearly indicate to the ‘offending’ parties that you are reaching your tolerance. And when you do you reach that red mark, instead of just bursting in an erratic manner, see if you can harness and steer your emotions into a well-meaning and respectful conversation.
Ofcourse, do remember that the best way is always to reflect and then approach someone when the issue has just happened, and the incident is still fresh in everyone’s mind. This way, you would have addressed it before it has had a chance to fester within you and the other person would also remember the situation from their near past and be able to respond in a meaningful manner.
What I hope to communicate is that, if calm discussions are not your personality, then there is way that you can still clear the air and feel a level of relief, even as you work on yourself to ensure that you do not let emotions fester within you, which ultimately is very detrimental for your inner peace, overall health & wellbeing, and your spiritual progress.
Similarly, on one side, voicing one’s pent-up feelings and emotions can help one to feel relieved and comforted, but at the same time, if it is done it a very cruel and erratic way, where one just bursts on unsuspecting parties, who usually tend to be friends, family, close relationships or even colleagues, then it can lead to deep hurt and broken relationships!
Lightening can strike anytime and usually as this force of nature, it can be very destructive, but when harnessed it allows us to have electricity.
Similarly, even though you may not feel as comfortable to express your emotions and concerns during a calm discussion and because of this you maybe the type of person who needs to feel pent up to lash out, to make yourself heard… see if you are able to harness and steer your feelings in such a way, where you clearly indicate to the ‘offending’ parties that you are reaching your tolerance. And when you do you reach that red mark, instead of just bursting in an erratic manner, see if you can harness and steer your emotions into a well-meaning and respectful conversation.
Ofcourse, do remember that the best way is always to reflect and then approach someone when the issue has just happened, and the incident is still fresh in everyone’s mind. This way, you would have addressed it before it has had a chance to fester within you and the other person would also remember the situation from their near past and be able to respond in a meaningful manner.
What I hope to communicate is that, if calm discussions are not your personality, then there is way that you can still clear the air and feel a level of relief, even as you work on yourself to ensure that you do not let emotions fester within you, which ultimately is very detrimental for your inner peace, overall health & wellbeing, and your spiritual progress.
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Emotional Wellbeing, How To..., Journey To Oneness and Self Development
Keywords and Tags:
#expressingoneself #emotionalintelligence #emotionalquotient #pentupemotions #emotionalexpression #emotions #feelings #ascension #joy #happiness #consciousliving #quantumliving #spirituallessons #emotionalwellbeing #mentalwellness #healthandwellness #walkingthepath #journeytooneness
