Unfortunately, most of this evaluation and branding happens in a subtle and unconscious manner. Our preferences are steered by our samskaras, which are the karmic tendencies which then go on to become our “vrittis” i.e. our behaviors which are governed by latent and innate tendencies.
But someone who is truly wise knows that the same divine is there in each one of us. He/she is able to see the common ‘one-ness’ underneath all the diversity that is around us.
What we need to do is to develop the ability to see the “one-ness” in all. After you meet someone or interact with someone, it is helpful to take a moment to reflect on the commonality between you and that person you were just speaking with. However different you may be at an apparent level; can you see the underlying common aspect between both you and them?
If you both belong to the same sex, same community, same work place, it would be easy to find more commonalities- but can you try to see beyond these- at a fundamental level, how/what is common between all of you?